Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Before coming to Sex Addicts Anonymous, many of us never knew that our problem had a name. All we knew was that we couldn't control our sexual behavior. For us, sex was a consuming way of life. Although the details of our stories were different, our problem was the same. We were addicted to sexual behaviors that we returned to over and over, despite the consequences.

How do I know I'm a sex addict?

One way of knowing is looking honestly at your life and sexual behaviors. Has acting out sexually caused your life to be unmanageable? Have you acted out despite knowing it was wrong or dangerous or risky? Getting into trouble, or the fear of getting into trouble over our sex addiction is what has brought most of us here. 

If you are unsure whether you may be a sex addict we suggest you complete the self assessment Am I a Sex Addict?.

What are the requirements for attending my first meeting?

The only requirement to attend an SAA meeting is a desire to stop compulsive and addictive sexual behavior. You may attend your first meeting even if you are unsure whether you may be a sex addict. 

Each meeting has a unique format. If it is your first meeting, just be patient and listen. If you have any questions, we encourage you to ask other members of the group during or after the meeting.

How much does it cost?

Nothing, it's free! SAA is based on the traditions and principles of AA. 

Newcomers are not expected to make a contribution at their first meeting. SAA has no dues or fees, however, each meeting has expenses such as room rent and SAA literature. At the end of every meeting a basket is passed around to collect voluntary contributions.

Do I have to talk at the meeting?

 

No. We encourage you to listen to what others have to share and try to identify and listen for simularities in your own life. Share when you feel the desire to share.
What is a sponsor?

A sponsor is someone you can not only work through the 12 steps with but also someone you can reach out to in a time of need. Sponsors serve as guides along the path to recovery and can help you deal with the inevitable challenges of abstaining from destructive or unhealthy sexual behavior.

How do I find a sponsor?

There are no formal guidelines for finding a sponsor. We would suggest attending meetings and becoming familiar with other members, making use of the meeting phone list to reach out and sharing that you are looking for a sponsor. Never be afraid to ask, but remember to be patient as many times the teacher will appear when the student is ready.